Forgiveness Heals The Soul
One of our active volunteers and youth enthusiast, Syeda Ramsha from Karachi, shares great views on the act of “Forgiveness”!
The world is full of unexpected things. We never know what’s going to happen the next minute, yet our expectations are always high. If we do something good to the world, we develop a misconception that the world also will return us good. No, it doesn’t happen every time. Sometimes, the people nearest to you treat you the way you never dreamt of. No matter what, if this happens intentionally or unintentionally, you end up with disappointments and feeling anguished. Often the forgiveness over their penitence becomes questionable.
There may be times when others hurt you or your family much that you simply feel being unable to forgive them. Your soul fills with a sadness that turns into an anger. You may hold a grudge or even spend time plotting ways to get revenge. You see the act of forgiveness as letting another person off the hook.
So, what can you do when any of your acquaintances crush your spirit in a way that makes it difficult to find a way to forgive and forget?
Remember, forgetting is not easy but forgiveness does remove bitterness from your heart.
There are many variations of and attributions to the quotation,
“Not forgiving others is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the other person to die.”
The point is that we forgive others for us, not for them. Not forgiving others gives them the power to continue to wound us unnecessarily. Forgiveness does NOT mean we allow their behavior. Forgiveness, rather, is essential to our own well being.
It’s sometimes so much more natural to just hold grudges. What if you finally reach a place where you want to forgive, but you just don’t know how best to go about it? All you need to do is, acknowledge the base, experience how you feel and confess that you want to forgive for you and you don’t want to feel the frustration and resentment anymore. If it doesn’t work after so many trials, let it go at last and forgive for the sake of Allah.
Forgiveness means we forgive both ourselves and others. When we do that, it makes much easier to make our way in the world.
Forgiveness never means we make ourselves prey to the evil acts of others. It’s difficult in the beginning but it heals your heart at the end. —– Syeda Ramsha Ehtisham